When it’s going to be wrong…
The more experienced we become in ropes, the earlier we sometimes know: this is not going to work. But what happens when that knowledge gets in the way of the experience itself? When anticipation replaces feeling, corrections replace communication, and both partners end up frustrated? Perhaps the practice is not to know less, but to trust ourselves enough to stay with what is actually happening – until there is something real to respond to.
Trying too hard
Autumn arrived quietly on our street, with yellow gingko leaves scattered across the grey asphalt. Walking through them one morning, I found myself thinking about how much we are always doing – in ropes, relationships, teaching, learning. We push, force and try to make things happen. But what if sometimes the way forward is not to do more, but to let something go?